A quick discourse on being dishonest: I've heard way too many stories recently of people both young and old either missing out on their dreams or living in misery because they refuse to be honest with themselves.
If you ask a handful of high school and college students what they are going to do with their lives or their degrees, you'll usually get an answer. Some say they want to be a dentist, some surgeons, some teachers. Most are lying.
See, if you also ask them whether or not they like these professions, they'll usually say yes to that as well. It seems as though logically, you should like the thing that you say that you want to do, and so the answer follows—"Of course! I love the idea of being a dentist." Mind you, that's not always dishonest, but it's a lot less honest than it seems.
For one, how many dentists have you spoken to? Do you know what the day to day life of a dentist is? Have you spoken to people who are in school for dentistry? Do you know the cost of college? Does this align with your passions? Is this something you will be good at?
It takes a lot of knowledge as well as intuition to say, at the age of 18 years old, that you know exactly what occupation you are going to end up in once you're out of school, and let's be honest for a second: most young people don't have it. Simple as that.
Nonetheless, due to a pressure from parents, teachers, and counselors, we'll sit around and talk about our future as if we've already lived through it. As if we've seen the entire dream play out already—because we're supposed to have a plan, so we just make one up, despite the fact that it is entirely dishonest.
Of course, we come to the most important question: what's your remedy? What are we going to do about the dishonesty surrounding our futures?
It's simple: be honest. Let's try it. Go ahead, ask me: "What are you going to do when you grow up, what's your plan after high school?"
A plan? I don't have a plan! You're asking me to connect the dots here, and I don't even have dots to connect. I'm just a kid! That's alright though, because I know how plans work. I've heard the stories of some of the more successful people in this world, and I know exactly what their plan was: to go through every open door and take advantage of every opportunity I get and make sure I do great work every time I walk through one of those doors.
By the end of it all, I'll have shipped a lot of great things and created even more, and it'll look like I had a plan all along, because the dots all connected! But of course, I didn't.
That's my plan, if I'm being honest.