Diego Segura

Daily Reflections

I wrote these reflections daily from May to August of 2018. I’ve compiled these all into one book and edited them for clarity. You can find To a Man Much Like Myself (Oct. 2018) at muchlikemyself.com.

On distractions, honesty, and social responsibility

On distractions Always, your failure to stay focused comes from a lack of ability or desire to relentlessly remove the things around you that are distracting. You gravitate towards these distractions for obvious reasons—they are distracting, and keep you from doing the real work that you are supposed to do. They allow you to resist and feel somewhat productive while you're at it. You must not let resistance beat you, ever. You must not resort to escapism, ever. You must relentlessly remove the distractions long before your ability to resist them is tempted.

On honesty Though honesty is and should be highly prized by both those who are willing to give it and receive it, honesty treads a very fine line between being abrasive and valuable. It depends on context, and your ability to be honest is not what will set you apart from the rest. Anyone can identify the truth and relay it to others relatively effectively. Rather, your ability will be to identify the correct situations and contexts in which to be honest. That is far more special than being able to simply be honest. It requires far more attention to detail and more experience in many different social situations. It will be useful to have spoken to many different types of people from many walks of life so that you can adequately feel their reactions before you have gone too far or stopped too short.

On social responsibility Again, today you found yourself in a situation in which you had to lead the conversation and discussion entirely. This is an extraordinary responsibility, due to the fact that you have so much control in the situation. This includes controlling whether or not the other person is happy and enjoying the conversation. Rather than fail to uphold this responsibility and then complain that you shouldn't be responsible for it, you should own this responsibility and, like described above, develop the ability to take it on effectively. Don't shy away from leadership. Own it, and become a better leader because of it.

On good starts When you begin well in the morning, it seems like the rest of your day falls into place accordingly. This shouldn't be luck or at the whim of how you felt on a given morning—that is far too unpredictable. I've seen you take time the night before to actively think about how you want the next day to begin. If nothing else, know how the first hour or even half hour of your next day will begin. If you can just win that small amount of time with one or two activities, you will set a standard.

On bad starts Of course, if you've completely failed for the first two hours of your day, or failed to even start, this is no excuse for you to not try to achieve better for the rest of the day. In fact, this presents even more pressure to jump back on the horse and make sure that each minute is a win. Recognize this added pressure and step up to the plate. Use your bad start as an aid to your efficacy. Use it as an excuse for the rest of the day to turn away distractions and stay intensely focused on making up the time that you've lost by winning every minute.

Diego Segura