Diego Segura

Daily Reflections

I wrote these reflections daily from May to August of 2018. I’ve compiled these all into one book and edited them for clarity. You can find To a Man Much Like Myself (Oct. 2018) at muchlikemyself.com.

On focus sheets, accountability, and the end

On focus sheets You've done particularly well when you have a physical focus sheet in front of you to reference throughout the day. It shows you exactly what needs to be done and the individual tasks to get there. It's a system that helps you do your job. When you don't have a system—a way to organize the day—you don't do nearly as well. You are distracted, you lack direction, and your attention is too easily split. Take time to sharpen the axe daily by focusing on a core set of tasks that need to be completed. This is integral in making sure anything gets done. Visually be able to check things off your list, and make sure that you stick to those commitments if you commit to them.

On accountability Part of the reason that a focus sheet works is that it automatically holds you accountable.  You said that you needed to get X, Y, and Z done, and I can show you that here on the focus sheet that you wrote just hours ago. You didn't do that, and now you're inconsistent with your own words. Now, you'll at least try your very best to be realistic about your short-term goals, or you will complete the tasks so as not to be left with nothing at the end of the day. Practice holding yourself accountable, and don't rely on someone else to tell you what needs to be done. Learn how to be reasonably hard on yourself and you will never cease to develop.

On the end As I understand it, you might be done with school even earlier than you once thought. Within the next seven days. What's interesting is that your end date keeps creeping closer and closer, and not only because time is passing for you. Nonetheless, this is exactly what you wanted. You wanted this to end, and now you have no reason to have fear of what comes next. Something had to come next no matter what, whether it happened in seven months or in seven days. Embrace the end. Cherish the end.

On new beginnings When something ends, that only means that you are gaining a new opportunity to do something different. In your case, you know the learning that will happen in the next three months will be significantly more than all of the formal learning you've done for the last three years. That only happens if you embrace the new beginning. That's why you end something—to start something new.

On expectations of new beginnings Don't delude yourself into thinking that by ending an activity or chapter of your life that all of the things you enjoyed about it disappeared. When you move to a new city at some point in the future, you will face the same dilemma—this city is connected to all of your friends and family and everything that you once enjoyed (and didn't). Don't forget that by leaving it, you will find another city that can provide you with equally great life, work, and play. Don't forget the reason that you change in the first place. For better.

Diego Segura