Diego Segura

Daily Reflections

I wrote these reflections daily from May to August of 2018. I’ve compiled these all into one book and edited them for clarity. You can find To a Man Much Like Myself (Oct. 2018) at muchlikemyself.com.

On lifestyle, leisure, and fiction

On lifestyle There are two main ways that you can look at and attempt to plan your career and life. For one, you could look at the work itself and attempt to guess what sort of work you find particularly appealing (and will continue to find appealing in the future). This means that work will never feel like work and you'll enjoy waking up early and staying up late to do the work. On the opposite side of the spectrum, you could think about your lifestyle. What sort of life do you want to live, and how much does that cost? What sort of money do you have to make to make that happen? Of course, the happy medium is in between these two perspectives. Those who only pay attention to what work they want to do often forget about their other needs and ambitions and forget that work is often only 8 hours of their day. Similarly, some are too focused on lifestyle and believe that they need more than they truly do. By living simply, you can enable yourself to live a more exciting and varied lifestyle while still doing the things you love. Take both of these into account as you begin your career and have to answer these questions.

On leisure When you find yourself relaxing, unoccupied by what you might consider a usual task, are you actually relaxing? Or are you just wasting your time? There is a difference. Rest is vital and everyone needs it—including you. However, you're not resting from anything if you decide to give your time to others in abundance and desert all of the things that you are responsible for doing. Similarly, if your resting time becomes more of an occupation than rest, you are doing yourself a disservice. This requires nothing more than good judgment and self-awareness. Rest has its place and role—identify that place, and keep it there. 

On fiction For as long as I can remember, you've refused to indulge in fiction of many sorts. You don't watch television, you try to avoid movies, and fictional literature is entirely unappealing. Recently, this hasn't been so. You've been open to watching certain movies under the impression that the lessons illustrated in them are valuable enough to justify hours watching them. This might be true, but what are you giving up to do this? If there is a time for the imaginative, then it must be deliberate. You cannot aimlessly fall into a movie because you had nothing better to do. In this way you will train yourself to be at the whims of your impulses rather than of your reason. There is nothing inherently wrong with fiction, or with any other thing that you might have called a distraction. The harm comes in it's transition from valuable to an escape mechanism. There is no escaping reality. Don't aim to escape reality, but to distort it. Be equanimous and don't necessitate Spielberg to save you from it.

Diego Segura