On comfort, allure, and perfectionism

On comfort Being comfortable with being uncomfortable is a decision. You don't become comfortable because the situation has fundamentally changed. You become comfortable because you decided to be more reasonable than emotional—to control your mind in a tough time. Waiting for a circumstance to change is futile. By the time you think that the circumstances have turned sufficiently in your favor, something else has popped up to negate that change. There will always be something that makes you uncomfortable if you are constantly moving and progressing, and that's exactly as it should be. It seems like a catch-22: You'll become more comfortable in X situation by spending time in X situation, but you are too uncomfortable to spend any time in X situation, so you will never become acclimated to it. So, your first action is to force yourself to do it. From great boxers you've learned that adapting is the key to winning championship fights. Prize fighters become prize fighters when they are faced with an unknown situation and find a way to overcome it. Emulate them and remain reasoned in new situations.

On allure In order to have allure there must some sort of unknown. You pride yourself on transparency, but that's not always the answer. Nor, of course, is complete opacity, but you should try to say less in the coming days. You'll find out that now others are listening to you because they have asked to hear what you have to say, rather than you burdening them with unsolicited words. The best way to build allure is not through complete transparency nor through complete opacity, but a gentle mix of both. Be transparent enough that people know there is something more to your actions, but never let them know what. Use this to build interest in your projects or creative endeavors. You'll have much more luck marketing to the interested than selling to the uninterested. Make others ask questions and they will delight in your answers.

On perfectionism In recent years, you've made a strong shift away from your old perfectionism. There might be some negative effects of this—perhaps you have done some work that you are less proud of than you might otherwise have been—but the ability to throw away your perfectionism is an advantage. You might have released projects that you are less proud of, but at least you have released them. Creativity is not about getting it perfect, but about shipping the work. This is not to say that you should ship everything you create and release it for the world. Sometimes, what you made just sucks. But if it is the best of your ability at a given time, release it. Ship it. You'll have time to go create more things later. Perfectionism very quickly turns into procrastination. Your first draft will not be perfect for a long while, so you sit around and wait until...nothing. You simply wait, because you want it to be perfect. This is no way to create things! This is no way to ship things! This is only a way to die among stacks of your own unfinished creations—and many not yet started.

Diego Segura