On frustration and comforting others

On frustration When you become frustrated, it falls only on you to fix it. Nobody else can be expected to change their behavior just because you are frustrated. It's true, they might do something that doesn't interact well with who you are, but it is your fault to react and become frustrated by it. You can't control your circumstances, only your reactions. You'll rebut with, "What am I supposed to do, exist at the whims of others and be pleased with everyone's actions?" but that's not a valid way to live either. Fine—you want things to be different. Make them so. Find ways to create change that will make you less frustrated. Figure out a remedy. There will also be situations, however, that require no change at all. The only change that needs to happen is that of your own mind. If you are frustrated at a fact and what it means for your actions—for example, a fact that means you should act differently than you  do—then your responsibility is to change your actions, not change the fact. In these ways, you must deal with frustration. When I say that you have no reason to be frustrated, I mean to say that in frustration, you have no reason. Be sober minded and assess the situation with a level head. 

On comforting others You were confronted with a situation that you didn't feel confident in and that was clear in your words and actions in that moment. You don't often have to comfort other people and help them through problems—in fact, you seem to ignore them a lot of the time because you have no commitments to...anyone. However, in this moment, you had to comfort someone and that's an activity that will not go away the more you decide to develop relationships and lead others. For one, we should start by making sure you stay steady in these times of comforting others—what reason do you have to be uncomfortable? Perhaps it is because you don't feel equipped to do the best job for the person on the other end. Become equipped to do the best job for the other person. That might come through further understanding of their problems and paying more attention to them as they speak. Actively listen and you will understand better what they need in that moment. Attune yourself to their needs and you will attune yourself to how you can fit that need. These are the first steps for being able to lead somebody else—awareness.

Diego Segura