On discomfort

If you’re not uncomfortable and a bit displeased with how little you said in a conversation, you failed. Re-read that: you should be uncomfortable with how little you said. You’re so used to dominating conversations and owning the room that yielding causes you pain. That’s an excellent way to measure whether or not you’re effectively yielding.* If you’re doing it enough, it will hurt. If you don’t yield to others enough, you’ll feel fine. This goes for a lot of things. If you’re not a bit uncomfortable with criticism you receive, you need someone who will be tougher on you. If you’re not uncomfortable with what you’re writing, you should take more of a stance. There’s uncertainty inherent in a life of innovation and change, so embrace it. From Andre Ward, you learned the importance of being uncomfortable. It’s the only way to win the fight against stagnation…and thus, failure.

*This is advice for an extrovert. If you’re naturally quiet, this may be a terrible thing to strive for because it will keep you in your comfort zone. This is a great example of the advice in this book not being universal.