In some parts of the world, people don’t share even your most fundamental values. Is it right to be healthy? Of course. Is it valuable enough to pursue with your time and money? To many, it isn’t, even though they would agree that it’s good to be healthy. Is it right to be kind? Perhaps, but many see it as a burden in the world of business and competition that they live in. They may not even value kindness toward themselves, while another person might live their life based solely on how benevolent they can be toward others.
Of all the actions you can take in a given day, there are few measuring sticks by which you can measure them. For one, your efforts should be honest. Ulterior motives have to be rid away in favor of clarity of purpose. If you speak only to further your interests and status, then you are not being honest with yourself or the people around you. You would be better off saying to the group, “I am here to promote myself and make myself look better in your eyes and will proceed to try and do so for the next half hour.” That would be better than lying about your reasoning. Honesty will also serve you well to speak for your own interests and maintain your happiness. If you’re miserable at work, you should say something. If you’re unhappy in a relationship, say something. If someone else is misery looking for company, say something, too. That’s not to say you should be rude and cover it with a veil of truth, because that’s not right, either. Those who cover meanness with a spirit of revealing the truth are not being honest themselves because they just want to be mean. The one thing you should be, at all times, whether internally or externally, is honest.